When you walk, the gait should reflect elegance and assurance.  Moving with measured pace and comfortable ease is a sign of self-confidence.  Similarly, while preparing to sit, it is not proper to drag the chair or seat.  After sitting down, do only that for which you are sitting there in the first place.  Do not allow the involuntary actions of the unconscious to take a grip over you.  Such finer points acquire greater significance when we go to meet somebody or present ourselves for interview.  In such cases, permission should be sought before entering.  If called in, you must not forget the appropriate salutation or greeting.  There should be, on these occasions, a hint of cheer and natural calmness on your face.  A tense expression shows lack of self-confidence.

When you meet someone, meet affably and genially, regardless of the immediate situation you are in, i.e., even if you are busy or surrounded by problems.  A conscious effort to generate such emotions within oneself helps the growth of control over feelings, cool assertiveness and bold self-confidence in life.  Also keep in mind that a dress mode appropriate to the occasion enhances the effectiveness of self-expression. 

Now comes the turn of expression by the tongue.   Often the mode of speaking, too, suffers from many faults of involuntary mannerisms, e.g. idiosyncratic repetition of particular words or phrases, speaking either haltingly or too rapidly, launching into speech immediately after taking a seat and without surveying the situation, or alternatively, taking so much time to take off that the time is over.  These defects are again the outward signs of the pressure of the unconscious.  We should free ourselves from its hold.

Whenever we meet somebody or go to a public gathering, we should speak in a manner which is in tune with the ambiance.  Normal courtesies towards those present should be observed.  We should speak only when our turn comes, or after obtaining due permission.  The matter should be presented methodically, point-wise, and supported by self-explanatory examples and proofs when required.  Every stage of the speech should reflect our inner assurance, but not arrogance.  When someone has to be contradicted, it should be done politely, with due respect to the person concerned.  The speech should be made in a comprehensible, polite, firm and controlled tone.  Be it speech or conduct, the more it is made free from the unconscious-driven reflexes, the better.  Only such achievers, through their impressive personalities, assume the mantle of true leadership in life and society.